| Why he’s avoiding sex So you are the one who domineer in bed. You wish your hubby can have multiple orgasms as you do in the bed, but his libido has gone MIA. Some wives do have high demand on sex but their husband simply cannot satisfy. Such expectation could lead to resentment.
During in the bed, take time to make him comfortable. Focus on building bond instead of just having sex. Take turn planning sex dates so each of you gets to make love in the way you prefer.
Most men are visual creatures so it’s obvious to most to think that if the man do not find the woman attractive, he will not wish to have sex with her. But this may not be always true. If your husband and you are at the opposite ends of the sexual spectrum, don’t take personally if he’s not as expression as before.
Have a talk with him. It is crucial to reach out to your husband all areas of your intimacies, and not just sexually. Share with him each other’s point of view. If there is different opinion arises, seek for compromises instead of finding fault.
It could be also due to medical reason. Erectile dysfunction may be caused by obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. Watch out for psychological factors like depression and anxiety.
You can focus on sharing and closeness. Cuddle and cares without having engaged in full sexual activities. An easy cure for low libido is to get your blood flowing to the right places, to boost his performance in bed. Herbs like ginseng and ginkgo biloba can be helpful.
Low sex-esteem and sexual anxiety can affect both your husband’s libido and performance in bed. Sometime you wish your husband to be more creative and imaginative and he often trying hard to please you better. Do not highlight his shortcoming in bed, which can have an impact on his ego and esteem. Do reassure him that you still enjoy his company and value him for who he is, rather than just a sex object. |